My eye blinked and four years passed. It’s been four years since my mom passed away. Sometimes it feels like yesterday and some days it seems like forever since I’ve seen her face or heard her voice. When a loved one passes people tell you “time heals”; personally, I think that’s crap. Time is time.
I guess if I’m wrong, you’ll hear about it in a future post.
I digress. I will not be maudlin. I just say, that with each passing day, I still miss and love my mom, Kathryn Lorain Pearce Stokes. She was so sweet, and quiet and strong. I got her strength. She had pretty hazel eyes. I got my dad’s brown eyes. I did inherit her stocky build. Yah!
I know it sounds like a cliché’, but what the heck, it’s true! Be sure to appreciate the people in your life while they are still in your life. I appreciate having my mom’s strength and my dad’s sense of humor. They are no longer here for me to enjoy, but I can be a reflection of what they gave me. I embrace my stockiness and my brown eyes. May as well, right?
I miss my sister, but I love her kids and grandkids. Every time I spend time with them, instead of dwelling on how much she would love to be experiencing the day with us, I think ‘she’s here’ in these kids. That makes me smile.
All of us has experienced a profound loss in our lives. If you haven’t, consider yourself lucky. I really don’t believe time heals all wounds. But time allows us to reflect on those we’ve lost and embrace the impact they have had on our lives. Remember them, not sadly, but with happiness for the love they brought into our lives and the blessing they were to us.
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I agree. Time only eases the pain somewhat but the emptiness is still there but we were fortunate enough to have GREAT parents who cared and loved us and GREAT friends that we can cherish and a lot of good times to reflect back on. Well said.
Very touching; and I agree….people tell me time heals but so far it hasn’t. I feel my Grandma’s lost as though it was today and not eight months ago. But you are right; time does allow us to reflect on the influence that person had in our life and to also value those around us more, to let them know now while they are still alive what they mean to us.
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Very touching; and I agree….people tell me time heals but so far it hasn’t. I feel my Grandma’s lost as though it was today and not eight months ago. But you are right; time does allow us to reflect on the influence that person had in our life and to also value those around us more, to let them know now while they are still alive what they mean to us.
Welcome back to the blogging sphere.
They are always here with us. Just more so when we need them..I miss mine too… LOVE YOU !!!